Couples
Couples and Relationship Counselling in Stockport and Online
Every couple hits a point where communication breaks down, and the warmth gets replaced by tension, distance, or a repetitive loop of arguments. It can feel exhausting and lonely. Using a unique blend of Imago Couples Therapy and Transactional Analysis, I help you move past the blame game and build a conscious, deeply connected relationship where both of you feel heard and valued.
Does Your Relationship Feel Like This Right Now?
Most couples seek therapy when they find themselves stuck in one of these painful dynamics:
The Defend and Attack Cycle
Small disagreements quickly escalate into major blowouts where you both end up feeling wounded and misunderstood.
The Wall of Silence
Giving each other the cold shoulder, walking on eggshells, or feeling like you're just "roommates"; co-existing in the same house.
The Same Old Argument
Feeling like you are having the exact same fight over and over again, whether it’s about money, intimacy, family, or chores, with no actual resolution.
Healing After a Crisis
Navigating the painful aftermath of a major life stressor, a breakdown in trust, or an infidelity.
Reconnecting Through Imago & Transactional Analysis
In our sessions, I don't take sides, and we don't just sit and argue. Instead, we use two powerful frameworks to transform how you relate to one another:
1. The Imago Dialogue: Learning a New Way to Talk
Imago translates to "image", the unconscious blueprint of love we formed in childhood. Often, we choose a partner who accidentally triggers our oldest childhood vulnerabilities. I will teach you the Imago Dialogue, a structured, safe way of speaking to each other that shifts communication from reactive fighting to deep empathy. You will learn to truly mirror, validate, and empathize with each other's experiences.
2. Transactional Analysis: Decoding Your Relationship "Games"
Using TA, we look at the psychological "crossed transactions" happening between you. Are you talking to each other as Adult-to-Adult, or have you fallen into a toxic Parent-to-Child dynamic (where one partner feels criticized and the other feels micro-managed)? We will uncover the unconscious relational "games" you play to protect yourselves, helping you both step back into a collaborative, equal partnership.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long are couples sessions?
Couples sessions benefit significantly from more time than individual work. I offer 60-minute (or 90-minute) sessions to ensure both partners have dedicated space to speak, listen, and process effectively.
What if my partner is hesitant about therapy?
This is incredibly common. I invite you both to a complimentary 20 minute online or phone call session to discuss any hesitations. There is no pressure—it is purely a collaborative space to see how it feels and decide together if you want to proceed.
Do you take sides?
Never. In couples therapy, the relationship is my client. My role is to remain completely neutral, safe, and supportive of the connection between you, helping you both understand each other's perspectives.
Create a Conscious Partnership
You don't have to wait until your relationship is in crisis to seek support. Whether you want to
repair deep fractures or simply strengthen a good relationship, I am here to help you navigate
the way forward.